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Daddy’s Girl Help
Over the past two weeks my “normal” Daddy’s Girl has turned into an EXTREME Daddy’s Girl.
At a baby shower before I had kids, someone wrote this advice in a book.
Your kids will go back and forth between their attachments to Mom and Dad. And when it seems like they are more attached to their dads, don’t let it get to you. It is normal and wonderful.
It still is sad though. She wakes up and instead of the morning hug she says, “I want Dad.” When I go to pick her up from the sitters or my family’s homes, she says, “I want Dad.”
But lately she has been breaking down in tears crying for her dad while we are driving or playing or walking through the grocery store.
She does have a very busy daddy but he is also a daddy who runs home to see her, lets her stay up late to cuddle and is a very involved daddy to his little Abby.
Any suggestions? Or is this really normal? I am trying to not let it hurt my feelings. Cause that would be silly, right?
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Savannah is definitely more of a Daddy’s girl, but we don’t have the crying problem. The problem I have with Savannah is that when she is in trouble with me…she doesn’t care that it made me mad…she cares what Daddy is going to say. It hurts my feelings, and I try not to let it bother me. It still does. I keep joking that Devin will be on my side, and I might actually have a child that is a momma’s boy!
Better to have your kids love their Dad, then have them running away from him.
It’s normal, and it’s normal to have your feelings hurt over it; but don’t mention that your feelings are hurt in front of her — don’t blame her for it. Talk with your husband about your hurt feelings. Perhaps he could be encouraging: “I sure love to cuddle you! Let’s have Mommy cuddle, too, because we love Mommy so much!”
And though they’re young, it might help to remember…there are many worse things to which you could lose your daughters than their own father.
Be grateful she loves her Daddy so. I was always a Daddy’s girl. I still am but I always loved my mom too. My Dad and I just had a different connection. I have a great mother/daughter relationship with my mom so I think I turned out pretty well.
My daughter is like that sometimes too. When my husband took on an extra job, I took her down to the job and showed her what he was doing and why. It wasn’t exciting, but even though she is very young it seemed to help her understand that Dad has to be there and work. She gets to call him whenever she wants.
It is okay to get her your feelings hurt, you are a human being with all the mistakes and feeling that come with that.
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